After the first 5 years of marriage, 22% of couples experience either separation or  divorce. After 20 years of marriage, that percentage jumps to 53%. All couples  experience similar battles, but how that battle is viewed ultimately decides if the marriage will remain. If a disagreement arises and the couple come at it with their boxing  gloves on, then the marriage weakens. If the couple communicates with kindness, and patiently work through the disagreement, the marriage becomes stronger. Mutual love, respect, and commitment are key components to a strong lasting marriage.   

If it is ultimately agreed that divorce is inevitable, there are a few options to consider. Hiring an attorney to represent both partners is by far the most costly option, but it can offer an extra level of security with both partners being represented fairly and in a timely manner. 

Mediation is a great alternative to hiring an attorney. It allows couples time to consider options and work through any disagreements.  

A final option is to hire an LDA or paralegal. This streamlines the process and avoids costly legal fees. When disagreements arise over major issues like property division, debt allocation, or child custody, a formal hearing can be requested and a judge will make the final ruling.